And just like that, my first born is a college graduate.
Last weekend, H graduated magna cum laude (like his mama! #humblebrag) from Middlebury College—just a week and a half after playing his last college lacrosse game ever. Needless to say, it was an emotional time.
The weekend was a bit of a whirlwind, full of parties, ceremonies, and people. Lots of people. If I’m being honest, it was a lot for me. But I wanted to be there for H, so I did it all. I even co-hosted the Saturday night party, which I spent months planning with my lacrosse mom bestie, Karen. I may not be the nicest person when I’m organizing an event, but I do know how to throw a damn good party.
Here’s the thing about graduations that no one talks about: As a parent, you expect to feel pride and joy, but you may also feel frustrated, irritated, and exhausted at some point … Or maybe that’s just me.
I was definitely in my feelings last weekend.
Of course, seeing H cross the stage to receive his diploma with honors was a moment of pride. And seeing him smile and laugh with his friends after the ceremony made me happy.
But managing the logistics of the weekend for all of us was a lot. Co-hosting a party for 80 people was a lot. Wrangling aging, mobility-challenged parents in the rain was a lot. And cleaning H’s townhouse (which he shared with 7 other guys, so you can imagine the state it was in) and packing up his belongings immediately following the ceremony was a lot.
It was all just a lot. Most of it good, but I’m still recovering.
As I reflect on the past 4 years, I realize it wasn’t only H who grew … I did, too. He made lifelong friends, and I made a few new friends as well (which is big for me). He overcame challenges on the field, and I overcame some of my social anxiety (weekly lacrosse tailgates will do that). He learned to manage his time better, and I learned to manage my emotions better (sometimes). He broadened his world view, and I learned to appreciate the beauty of Vermont (despite not being a skiier).
I think Middlebury made us both better people in the long run.
—LJDT
